...you know? that's a fair point. I'm not sure how it would work. but it would be nice to know some stuff if its important.

I’m always reminded of the fact that women on dating sites rate 80% of the men as below average….

And the dating advisors who have written numerous articles about how women don’t really know or aren’t really honest with themselves about what they are looking for in a partner….

Stats depend on perception. Where a woman reports abuse, a man often spends an evening drinking or something similar. Not reporting abuse.

Expectations of men are too somewhat cruel. You should be grenadier-tall (or gorilla-wide, point being, you should look fit), with facial features like those of Kianu Reeves, with voice like that of Orlando Bloom, confident like some CEO, honorable like a samurai from some movie, yet able to override that honor at her whim and do any atrocity to make the world better for her. Like some picture of 1930s' propaganda.

If you don't deliver, then she silently pities herself and silently looks down at you for that. But God forbid you seem like that picture in some regard and then inevitably turn out to be more human, that deceit she won't forgive.

It was a problem a century ago that women were mostly right-wing and chauvinist and traditionalist. Most of that has been undone, but not how women in average see gender relations.

OK, so about the app - I won't be surprised if it was an intentional honeypot, honestly, to expose those who will use it. And it's a bad idea, there's no way to verify anonymous accusations, which means it's a tool for defamation of any man, and a way to discredit things of the kind written there at the same time.

Wow just two days ago I see a post about how Lemmy is dominated by men and how that could become a problem, and today I see a comment section where all the incels come out of the woodwork.

"waaa somebody wants to solve a problem that has never affected me I'm the victim"

"omg what if people talk behind my back they might find out I'm an asshole? literally 1984"

"wadabout if this app was racist?!? checkmate"

I'm not saying this app is good or bad (I can definitely see the problems) but if an article about cybersecurity gets posted and this is our first reaction, makes me lose hope in Lemmy.

Edit: Responses have made very good points and I think I was off, thanks guys. I still think some of the early comments I encountered were rather reactionary

off the top of my head, I don't know. i just feel the concept is intriguing and that the idea is a nice one.

just the abuse potential is far too high I suppose. but it would be nice to know if someone had stalked someone else, may have spoken or behaved in a violent manner, etc.

but I suppose at that point you might as well fingerprint and process any potential suitors lol.

the sentiment is great, however.

How would you implement the app in its current concept, without the possibility for abuse? It seems inherent to the very idea of it.

Tea was storing its users’ sensitive information on Firebase, a Google-owned backend cloud storage and computing service.

Every time. With startups, it's always an unsecured Firebase or S3 bucket.

Yeah, this app sucks for a variety of reasons, but holy shit the misogyny in this thread.

I'm certainly no web security expert, but shouldn't Tea's junior network/backend/security developers, let alone seniors, know how to secure said Firebase or S3 buckets with STARTTLS or SSL certificates? Shouldn't a company like this have some sort of compliance department?

These alleged high standards women hold are largely imaginary. It's only kind of like that on dating apps, and that's because they're 80% male, so women HAVE to be picky.

Honestly it seems like a weapon that can too easily be used for defamation

Wow just two days ago I see a post about how Lemmy is dominated by men and how that could become a problem, and today I see a comment section where all the incels come out of the woodwork.

"waaa somebody wants to solve a problem that has never affected me I'm the victim"

"omg what if people talk behind my back they might find out I'm an asshole? literally 1984"

"wadabout if this app was racist?!? checkmate"

I'm not saying this app is good or bad (I can definitely see the problems) but if an article about cybersecurity gets posted and this is our first reaction, makes me lose hope in Lemmy.

Edit: Responses have made very good points and I think I was off, thanks guys. I still think some of the early comments I encountered were rather reactionary

it seems its an app that helps women flag potential dating candidates as being dangerous or red flags.

there is the potential for doxxing that comes with that, but I can absolutely understand its use and need when not abused in that manner.

i wonder if there's the potential for a different app with more encryption and a way to prevent doxxing and abuse.

Wow just two days ago I see a post about how Lemmy is dominated by men and how that could become a problem, and today I see a comment section where all the incels come out of the woodwork.

"waaa somebody wants to solve a problem that has never affected me I'm the victim"

"omg what if people talk behind my back they might find out I'm an asshole? literally 1984"

"wadabout if this app was racist?!? checkmate"

I'm not saying this app is good or bad (I can definitely see the problems) but if an article about cybersecurity gets posted and this is our first reaction, makes me lose hope in Lemmy.

Edit: Responses have made very good points and I think I was off, thanks guys. I still think some of the early comments I encountered were rather reactionary

There's definitely a use case, but there's an inherent power imbalance to these products that makes sure they will always be misused. The submitters are anonymous, and it's up to the person being reported on to prove the accusations are false.

Or, they're supposed to be anonymous.

Wow just two days ago I see a post about how Lemmy is dominated by men and how that could become a problem, and today I see a comment section where all the incels come out of the woodwork.

"waaa somebody wants to solve a problem that has never affected me I'm the victim"

"omg what if people talk behind my back they might find out I'm an asshole? literally 1984"

"wadabout if this app was racist?!? checkmate"

I'm not saying this app is good or bad (I can definitely see the problems) but if an article about cybersecurity gets posted and this is our first reaction, makes me lose hope in Lemmy.

Edit: Responses have made very good points and I think I was off, thanks guys. I still think some of the early comments I encountered were rather reactionary

it’s up to the person being reported on to prove the accusations are false.

The person doesn't even know they're mentioned in the app.

You make a valid point, this platform absolutely shits on anyone without technical knowledge, just look at the hundred or so smug replies telling you what flavor of Linux they run if you mention a problem with Windows. So, no surprise everyone is focusing on that, and not the human aspect here.

Having said that, there is a power imbalance to this that I really don't like, the accuser gets to hide behind a veil of anonymity, and the accused has their name published, and is forced to defend themselves.