Nah, just hold your secret key in secret. It's just basic math.

I expect i will crumple at that point. But i hope i set him up with the tools he needs to navigate that part of life. And hopefully he feels close enough with me to come to me for help.

Either that has happened to more than one people or it was literally me that happened to hah, but on my lemm.ee account (RIP)

Really?!

Jimmy Carter gave up his tiny peanut farm. Yet people nowadays are just incapable of understanding the concept of conflict of interest?

If you're after text, there are a number of options. If you're after group voice, there are a number of options. You could mix and match both, but "where everyone else is" will also likely be a factor in that kind of decision. If you want both together, then there's probably just Element (Matrix + voice)? Not sure of other options that aren't centralised, where you're the product, or otherwise at obvious risk of enshittifying. (And Element has the smell of the latter to me, but that's another topic). I've prepared for Discord's inevitable "final straw" moment by setting up a Matrix room and maintaining a self-hosted Mumble server in Docker for my gaming buddies. It's worked when Discord has been down, so I know it works. Yet to convince them to test Element...

Nextdoor is an absolute black hole social media site, it absorbs the worst of humanity so we don't have to see them anywhere else.

It's extremely traceable. There is a literal public ledger if every single transaction.