Study: Remote working benefits fathers while childless men miss sense of community

[blattrules@lemmy.world]

I’m a childless man and I don’t miss the sense of community one bit.

[corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca]

When in office, you at least have the stress of many loud people around to distract you from that.

You hear yourself and you can spot the issue, right?

[suswrkr@discuss.tchncs.de]

what is this study? why does the article not link to it and the data? what is the sample size, located where? waste of time post, downvoted.

[spankmonkey@lemmy.world]

I have more time to spend with the community that isn't tied to my income.

Also a father, so double benefits!

[spankmonkey@lemmy.world]

no one goes to work for the “community,” which can also be gotten literally anywhere other than work

I can confidently say that a lot of my coworkers do go to work for a sense of community and also hang out with those same coworkers after hours. They basically get to see their community at work, and most of them don't have a home office set up, so the office is a better setting for them.

I separate work and home life almost entirely, and love working from home, but do want to acknowledge that some people do want to be in the office and it isn't only the toxic ones.

[fmstrat@lemmy.nowsci.com]

Let's fix this headline:

Remote work benefits all in different ways.

[cptbread@lemmy.world]

To me this highlights that many single men have problems with loneliness.

[cptbread@lemmy.world]

Not everyones ideal life is to at all times be alone.

[felixcress@lemmy.world]

What does this even mean

Read again. Slowly.

[anzo@programming.dev]

Oh c'mon the headline is clear. Get pregante XOR go home!

[altkey@lemmy.dbzer0.com]

As a childless asocial workaholic with some degree of toxicity that LinkedIn bastard probably dream of, my performance heavily depended on the importance of the task. WFH let me be more passionate about some projects and papers that I used all benefits of cutting commute, was way less distracted and motivated. But bullshit paperwork, letters, chats and reports lagged even further behind than they did in the office, right up to the deadline. Sometimes because I did the work itself instead and no one looked over my shoulder.

For me RTOing into a nearly-empty building in the off-season when most take vacations was the most dumb idea, and since it was a typical rule-for-thee, I had almost none supervison, was arriving late, leaving early and put a shit ton of hours into various MMOs. The complete opposite to what I did in a brief moments of quarantine. Look, jerks, you paid me to level my chars, that's what you wanted?

I think like in a trust-based environment clocking in is unnecessary and various bosses over time did get it, I payed back by reporting stuff myself so they were sure I'm on it at any given time. Like we are actually a team of some sort, they do their stuff, I do mine, we pass things to each other etc. The others were completely disconnected from empoyees and to compensate their inability to trust, got high on controlling shit, were sending down teamworking events, talking about being a family or other sectarian career manager bullshit, relied on and encouraged snitching on each other. These were the positions I nailed down to me clocking out and stop giving a fuck, before eventually leaving.

And for coworkers: they either do their work, or leave it to others, and I rarely GAF about other characteristics. The high stress environment of labor is not where I prefer to socialise, nor I'm in the mood to. I crave work-related communications that makes all objectives clear and obvious, work-related stories I can learn from, you know, the stuff I came here for, and not a social club with gossips, drama and all that. If I'm given 2hrs+ from not riding to your building, I can have two socializations and a half if I want to. The exhaustion it causes not helps but prevents me from going out with friends, and I'm double pissed that some bosses make an act like that's better for their workers while not giving them any agency and doing it solely for themselves.

Rant: over.

[portosian@sh.itjust.works]

Remote work is a step in the right direction at least. In my case, I'm generally just too exhausted to bother going anywhere other than home and work, which definitely limits any socializing. Work culture isn't entirely to blame of course, but it sure isn't helping.

[infinitesunrise@slrpnk.net]

Well then call me the outlier, cause I'm a childless man who has been happily working remote since before covid. I'd rather be jobless than go back to office work. I have a small group of non-work friends that I enjoy spending time with, and back when I did office work the majority of my friends were not work friends.

[infinitesunrise@slrpnk.net]

It's propaganda.

[pirate@feddit.org]

What community? Getting whipped along with your work colleagues? I swear these studies are totally sponsored by some business interests.

[cptbread@lemmy.world]

I would claim it's only a step in the right direction for someone if they will actually start doing something social. It's not enough that there is more opportunity to if you never actually do it...

[isthisanai@lemmy.world]

[rottingleaf@lemmy.world]

Yes, the issue is that those loud people are also distracting you from work.

[friskydingo@sh.itjust.works]

Being back mandatory poker nights!!!

[codexarcanum@lemmy.dbzer0.com]

This is a good idea, but also working remote frees up time to meet new affinity groups.

Not to dump on people's relaxation strategies, but even the most introverted person can't survive on video games and gooning alone.

If you don't want or like hanging with coworkers, find a local bar to hang out at and meet some folks, go to a community board game night, join a choir, attend an anime viewing night, just do something to take initiative and meet some folks that like what you like.