VPNs as soon as they can tap a screen. Raise them with online pseudonyms they change annually. They don't learn their actual PII until they're at least 10. Can't give it out to strangers if you don't know it yourself!

Another rule: Don't let your kid share his face. Ever. For any reason.

If YouTube wants his face, just buy VPN so your kid can browse safely

If I wanted to raise superhumans, I'd simply not give them smartphones until they turned 18.

I like and understand where you're going, but I can offer some actual experience. I learned my legal first name at 8.

It didn't go down well (I cried because the teacher didn't call my name and sent me to the school office to get it sorted) and I had a weird complex about the real name into high school. There's no rhyme or reason to the two names, so it is actually sort of surprising to pair the two. To this day I still go by the nickname I thought was my real name. My nieces and nephews still enjoy discovering my real name and calling me by it thinking it's a big secret they've discovered. I still have to explain it a hundred times a year to new coworkers and acquaintances.

I might be slightly facetious in my comment.

If I were to be slightly more earnest, I would say that the authoritarian concepts they learn from enforcement of arbitrary restrictions like "no screens in the bedroom" are far more harmful to their well-being than the information they could put on those screens.

The best "tech rule" I could give instill in them is an understanding of the concept of "click bait". The sooner I can immunize them to paywalls and microtransactions, the better.

If you wanted to socially stunt them maybe. Please never do this.

As an old fart who witnessed social gatherings for decades, it looks like social stunting comes from smartphones rather than their absence.

Your initial comment did not make this clear. I thought you where serious.

Big agree on the have them understand before draconian rules. Though some stuff is just gonna be walled off on my home network.

I mean, I was somewhat serious. Maybe not the "you don't get to know your home address until you're 10 years old" part.

The arbitrary nature of the rules is the problem. I don't want my kids limiting themselves just because they think they are supposed to. If they know and understand the reason for the rule, the rule itself doesn't need to exist.

This is correct from your perspective only.

Young people are still social but they do it differently, if you are no not online you wouldn’t know their is a social gathering nor would you be invited.
Not from malace but because all information about any event only exists online.

The person you consider your best friend needs someone to talk to. All their friends are available but not you. You become hard to bond with because your not where everyone else is in digital space.

Many events even require smartphone, even boring restaurants sometimes do with a QR code to see the menu/order.

I hate that kind of stuff but since a few years it has become clear that not having a smartphone is basically a social disability.

"Phone goes in the locker before bed, Johnny."

I understand that it is harder to bond to someone who isn't immediately digitally available. I understand that "kids these days! " do their social stuff online, but at the same time, they seem to have largely lost all skill at interacting with real humans of slight or no aquaintence.

It is easy to make sarcastic comments on your phone about how stupid this or that is. The sterotypical basement dweller can snark all day. What takes social skill is actively engaging with people you don't care about and finding common ground.

Yes, digital people track some of this on facebook and such, but in real life: in which community groups do they participate? Do they know what their neighbors do and what they like beyond snapshots of events? That is: yeah, they saw that pic of that cookout, but did they know that he volunteer teaches English as a second language Tuesday and Thursday at the library? When was the last time they went into a neighbor's home (or had one visit theirs) to share a cup of coffee and complain about that road that needs fixing and who to push about it?

Edited to replace 'you' with 'they' so there'd be no confusion that I mean multiple 'you' readers rather than a single person.

Do you realize how hostile the outside is to non-adults? Like genuinely I've seen people call the cops because there was a kid riding a bike unsuprivized in a suburban neighborhood. Malls are dying and there's nothing to replace them as a meeting spot.

This isn't even getting into the seeming requirement to spend what feels like 100$ to see a movie now or any of the other stereotypical hang outs. Or how many people have parents that simply do not have time to drive them places.

I'm genuinely interested in your response because I genuinely think the world has become actively hostile to kids being kids.

What about onlinebanks? Also a hard no?

Have you had any sucess with explaining the concept of clickbaiting and the whole predatory environment of the internet? I've tried, so many times, in different ways, with different examples and analogies. It just doesn't really stick, they are simply too inexperienced to fully understand the consequences and will fall prey to it the next day or two.

You still have local second-run theaters where those still exist, plus parks and playgrounds where those haven't been ruined yet, and depending on where you live, there may even be various art/craft places to hang out at, splatter-painting places included in that, and some of the nicer parts of the country even have interactive museums that are kid-friendly (as in actually interactive, like the patrons can actually interact and play with the exhibits there).

Aside from those, yeah, there isn't much for kids to do. sarcasm, but also not really if you're in a *really* low-income part of the country where there really *isn't* anything to do, think of places like Appalachia for a good example of that extreme

I still fall for it from time to time. I used to show them the headlines that caught me; they showed me the ones that caught them.

I think showing them how to use PiHole or some other content filtering would be useful. Empower them to shape their own world.

First bit: Why do we as a country (speaking from the U.S.) allow police to assualt the citizenry? Why aren't we all in our town halls demanding the removal of any cops who handcuff kids, tackle people who don't speak English, or fire guns at anyone who isn't at that moment attacking someone? The police should be under our control by our consent. We elect their bosses if not the sheriffs themselves. Why aren't we showing up in numbers in person to demand better?

Second bit: I know there are still some communities where kids can ride their bikes without fear because the parents still know everyone on the block. They might not like all the neighbors, but they know them and aren't calling the cops on them. The bad part of that is a distrust of outsiders and unwillingness to accept anything different. Humans fall into us/them thinking too easily. As far as I have heard/read/seen, the best way to mitigate that is first-hand exposure to the 'other' because people tend to be better than whatever sterotype someone worries about. Reminiscing here: I remember visiting my grandparents and having them walk me into various houses on the block to chat with neighbors. It never occurred to me as a bored child that this was socially incorporating me into an insular community that might have been sucpsious of a strange kid biking around the same streets over and over if they didn't know I belonged there.

That said, I don't understand how the kids like me who grew up running wild wherever we wanted became parents who didn't allow any roaming, and who's kids then became adults that will call the cops before asking the neighbors. Maybe we move too often. Maybe we fear litigation. Mostly, I suspect, we work too many hours for not enough money such that adults don't have the energy to form old-style communities where people banded together (both for good and bad), and instead everyone only bitches online just as I am doing right now.

So all you have to do is for everyone to move to a better neighbourhood, problem solved.

Sarcasm aside, in my neighbourhood there where some attempts to get together. Then people started complaining about eachother. Now at most a neighbour may wave back when i wave at them.