Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app
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"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."
Clubs? Are we in the 90ies?
What? What term would be preferable to you?
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So I've had multiple GF's who were physically abusive, cheaters, chronic liars, gaslighters... so is there a version of this for me? Or are men never victims still?
So glad this didn't exist like ~15 years ago. My one ex, who decided to start a relationship with her co-worker, while we were looking for and then financing a house... When I broke up with her (like 1 week after closing), while I was trying to process the betrayal, she took to Facebook and text messages spamming EVERYONE a fake story about me, trying to pass herself as the victim. Even including a fake pregnancy! All to make me look bad because I caught her cheating. Thankfully, this app didn't exist, and several of my female friends reached out to me for my side of the story.
But all the "stories" on that app, 100% vetted, right? We get unbiased, both sides of the story, right... Evidence was required... right? Because imaging the harm someone could do if they were just petty, or scornful, of just bored. It's not like women have ever made false rape claims... right....
I'm not trying to imply my situation is what all men go through... but you can't just dismiss it, or other men, because it doesn't fit into your social media-fueled narrative. Yes, some men suck (and that's selling it short). But, women are just as capable of the same level of suck. We are all, after all, human.
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Someone saw that Black Mirror episode and said “Let’s make that for real.”
And they got the idea from the two prior databases.
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So I've had multiple GF's who were physically abusive, cheaters, chronic liars, gaslighters... so is there a version of this for me? Or are men never victims still?
So glad this didn't exist like ~15 years ago. My one ex, who decided to start a relationship with her co-worker, while we were looking for and then financing a house... When I broke up with her (like 1 week after closing), while I was trying to process the betrayal, she took to Facebook and text messages spamming EVERYONE a fake story about me, trying to pass herself as the victim. Even including a fake pregnancy! All to make me look bad because I caught her cheating. Thankfully, this app didn't exist, and several of my female friends reached out to me for my side of the story.
But all the "stories" on that app, 100% vetted, right? We get unbiased, both sides of the story, right... Evidence was required... right? Because imaging the harm someone could do if they were just petty, or scornful, of just bored. It's not like women have ever made false rape claims... right....
I'm not trying to imply my situation is what all men go through... but you can't just dismiss it, or other men, because it doesn't fit into your social media-fueled narrative. Yes, some men suck (and that's selling it short). But, women are just as capable of the same level of suck. We are all, after all, human.
Inb4 "found the bear"
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Imagine if the genders were swapped in this situation
Or if this was targeted at virtually any other category of people
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So I've had multiple GF's who were physically abusive, cheaters, chronic liars, gaslighters... so is there a version of this for me? Or are men never victims still?
So glad this didn't exist like ~15 years ago. My one ex, who decided to start a relationship with her co-worker, while we were looking for and then financing a house... When I broke up with her (like 1 week after closing), while I was trying to process the betrayal, she took to Facebook and text messages spamming EVERYONE a fake story about me, trying to pass herself as the victim. Even including a fake pregnancy! All to make me look bad because I caught her cheating. Thankfully, this app didn't exist, and several of my female friends reached out to me for my side of the story.
But all the "stories" on that app, 100% vetted, right? We get unbiased, both sides of the story, right... Evidence was required... right? Because imaging the harm someone could do if they were just petty, or scornful, of just bored. It's not like women have ever made false rape claims... right....
I'm not trying to imply my situation is what all men go through... but you can't just dismiss it, or other men, because it doesn't fit into your social media-fueled narrative. Yes, some men suck (and that's selling it short). But, women are just as capable of the same level of suck. We are all, after all, human.
People who pretend to be victims upset me almost as much as people who victimize others (they are not equal, but it is still so fucked up). Victims have a rough enough time already being taken seriously. It doesn't take more than a few false positives to completely take the air out of legitimate accusations from victims. I wish there was some way to solve this problem.
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Anddddd......., it's already been breached: https://www.404media.co/women-dating-safety-app-tea-breached-users-ids-posted-to-4chan/
Yeah, it sounds like some well intentioned but extremely misinformed and unskilled (in the context of software and systems engineering) people just vibe-coded the thing together, and (shocked pikachu) it was a complete piece of shit security-wise.
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People who pretend to be victims upset me almost as much as people who victimize others (they are not equal, but it is still so fucked up). Victims have a rough enough time already being taken seriously. It doesn't take more than a few false positives to completely take the air out of legitimate accusations from victims. I wish there was some way to solve this problem.
I don't know why they upset you "almost as much" - people who pretend to be victims are in fact people that are victimizing others. "Other sides" notwithstanding, you said it yourself in so many words: they're also further victimizing actual victims.
I frankly find it more inexcusable.
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What? What term would be preferable to you?
Gen Z Man Reveals What Really 'Killed Club Culture'
etc., you get the hint.
A study recently linked it to
- affordance (see above)
- better general consciousness for health vs. alcohol
- less tolerance for drunken slipups due to social media
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As someone who's stayed away from creating accounts like Facebook the concept of being encouraged to share photos and real identities of people who haven't consented to being on the social media site is really creepy to me.
Its like some random social media account shows up and you never signed up but a profile for you has already been made and has all these photos you never even shared on there because someone chose to upload them in your place.
I'd rather people choose not to associate with people who don't have an account that has vetted on safety than be opted into something like this without choice.
Its like some random social media account shows up and you never signed up but a profile for you has already been made and has all these photos you never even shared on there because someone chose to upload them in your place.
Facebook literally does this, they just never let you see it, it's internal for advertising purposes
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Some salty content here for no reason.
Nobody is writing about you, misogynists of Lemmy, because nobody is dating you.
Yes, that's the sane way to deal about it.
How crazy do you have to be to listen to hollywood stories and let strangers into your house.
For what, because you think they're cute ? That's just an easy way to take up with a knife in your back.
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Don't these companies know how to properly configure a database? This seemed like it was completely preventable.
Don't these companies know
No. The answer is always no
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Its like some random social media account shows up and you never signed up but a profile for you has already been made and has all these photos you never even shared on there because someone chose to upload them in your place.
Facebook literally does this, they just never let you see it, it's internal for advertising purposes
That's data collection versus an active public profile.
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Gen Z Man Reveals What Really 'Killed Club Culture'
etc., you get the hint.
A study recently linked it to
- affordance (see above)
- better general consciousness for health vs. alcohol
- less tolerance for drunken slipups due to social media
Oh. So, you're saying you don't go to clubs. I thought you might have been saying it's an outdated expression.
Alright then, carry on.
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Some of the men's comments on here venting about how rough they had it dating really need to listen to women's dating stories more often. The level of violence does not compare.
I don't want you to take me badly, but to me this comment sounded really demeaning. Obviously women have it way worse than men, but you see a comment with a men venting about their personal experiences and the first thing that comes to mind is "women have it worse"?
I could understand this comment in the context of the app, and how people are making fun of it when its purpose is to try to solve such a common and awful problem in dating--but in the context of the comments of men venting here, it really just sounds like you're invalidating their experiences just because they're not women.
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Oh. So, you're saying you don't go to clubs. I thought you might have been saying it's an outdated expression.
Alright then, carry on.
Denial will only hurt you later.
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So I've had multiple GF's who were physically abusive, cheaters, chronic liars, gaslighters... so is there a version of this for me? Or are men never victims still?
So glad this didn't exist like ~15 years ago. My one ex, who decided to start a relationship with her co-worker, while we were looking for and then financing a house... When I broke up with her (like 1 week after closing), while I was trying to process the betrayal, she took to Facebook and text messages spamming EVERYONE a fake story about me, trying to pass herself as the victim. Even including a fake pregnancy! All to make me look bad because I caught her cheating. Thankfully, this app didn't exist, and several of my female friends reached out to me for my side of the story.
But all the "stories" on that app, 100% vetted, right? We get unbiased, both sides of the story, right... Evidence was required... right? Because imaging the harm someone could do if they were just petty, or scornful, of just bored. It's not like women have ever made false rape claims... right....
I'm not trying to imply my situation is what all men go through... but you can't just dismiss it, or other men, because it doesn't fit into your social media-fueled narrative. Yes, some men suck (and that's selling it short). But, women are just as capable of the same level of suck. We are all, after all, human.
People suck, hopefully you were able to take her to court for defamation because what she did is almost the definition of libel where I live (Maryland, US).
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Some of the men's comments on here venting about how rough they had it dating really need to listen to women's dating stories more often. The level of violence does not compare.
Spoken by someone who has clearly never been emotionally abused by a woman. Not all violence is physical. "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned".
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Denial will only hurt you later.
What on Earth are you talking about?
Edit oh, I'm not denying that club culture is dying and more unaffordable, I'm merely glad I wasn't that out of the loop, thought there's a new word for "club"
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I don't want you to take me badly, but to me this comment sounded really demeaning. Obviously women have it way worse than men, but you see a comment with a men venting about their personal experiences and the first thing that comes to mind is "women have it worse"?
I could understand this comment in the context of the app, and how people are making fun of it when its purpose is to try to solve such a common and awful problem in dating--but in the context of the comments of men venting here, it really just sounds like you're invalidating their experiences just because they're not women.
and the first thing that comes to mind is “women have it worse”?
Yes, because I've seen it and I had to intervene way more than I ever wanted to. We've had our fair share of violent domestic disputes in the family perpetrated by the men, I've seen it out on the streets, and lately, I'm watching all these videos of stories of women online who feared for their safety.
I've seen women mistreated in public, some being threatened with their lives, I've had family members impregnated against their will, my neighbor was literally choked on the street outside my window, a woman being held at gunpoint by their partner (I was there), and I've found out through gossip that the little girl I used to live with when I was a kid was found dead in a fucking ditch because of an ex. So yeah, I have no pony in this race as a man dating men, and yet I have plenty of reasons to think straight women have it way worse.
sounds like you’re invalidating their experiences
No, I'm comparing the grievances, which are perfectly valid and understandable on their own, but they're completely different in how they weigh on the motivation for creating such an app. Those grievances sound a little weak as an argument for this "flip the genders" crowd.
Like, it really sucks that a woman led you on but ultimately turned you down for someone else and you've spent the last decade mulling over it, but it isn't quite the same as getting a brick thrown through a window a few times as part of a campaign of terror orchestrated by a salty coke-head ex who won't leave you alone and the police seem too eager to keep letting it happen. Which is what happened to my little sister for years. So yeah, kinda different when you factor in the readiness to go violent.
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